Baby Shower Ceremony

Finally the day came, the big day for any mom-to-be! I would like to share my baby shower ceremony with my readers. Let’s go to the tour of pictures along with the significance of each tradition is being followed. If you haven’t read my previous post, please click here about what was going there so that you can have more idea about this post. 🙂

Baby shower is a tradition that is celebrated in almost all parts of India which mean to fill the lap of the expectant ladyEach region has it own significant way to celebrate. Different regions have different names for the baby shower ceremony too.

Shrimant….Gujarat

Godh Bharai…..North region

Dohale Jevan…. Maharashtra

Seemandham…..Kerala

Shaad…..Bengal

Valaikappu…..South region

Since I belong to the Gujarati family, I’m going to share how this tradition is celebrated in Gujarati Families.

When it is celebrated?

Generally, it is celebrated in the third trimester of pregnancy when it is said the baby has reached the safer milestone. It’s held during the 7th month. Generally, it is preferred to have it at the start of the 7th month only. This is more like women oriented occasion. Men are not supposed to participate in this event except brother-in-law. All women sing a traditional song for the mother and her baby and the expectant mother is dressed up like a bride.

How it is celebrated?

Tying Rakhi

The sister-in-law (Nanad), ties a rakhi (A cloth with certain things inside for the well being of mother and baby) to the mother-to-be. And it is not removed until the woman has her final delivery. After the delivery, it is tied with a cradle of the baby. Rakhi is also known as Panchmassi.

What is inside this cloth bag?
  • a small piece of iron
  • sand taken from any crossroads
  • chanothi (a small red fruit of a rare tree)
  • hanumanji’s mari (orange, sticky substance)
  • kodi (sea shell)
The Lord Ganesha Worship & Randal Matana lota

Any function or festival is incomplete without worshipping the God. We worship the Lord Ganesha and Randal Maa. The expectant mother has to keep fast and is allowed to eat only after all rituals are finished. Here are some glimpses of pooja. (If you are not aware of the Randal Matana Lota, you can search on google for more detail.)

Washing hair

After pooja is done, an expectant lady is supposed to wash her hair. In some tradition, it is believed that the expectant women shouldn’t wash the hair until Shrimant, weird but true. 😦 Imagine you can’t wash your hair from the day you conceived until the day of the baby shower. 😀 But it is also true that your hair will not get damaged nor you feel like that you haven’t washed hair for many months. This is something a part of faith. I also followed this ritual. 🙂

On the day of the baby shower, mom-to-be is supposed to go to her mumma’s home to wash the hair. After washing the hair, she is not supposed to tie her hair until the rest of the rituals are completed.

Feeling the Lap

This is the main part of the whole ceremony. The mom-to-be is supposed to exchange a whole coconut with water- Nadiyer, rice which symbolizes the prosperity, abundance and health. Other few things like Lagan Pado, Betel nuts and silver coin with her sister-in-law or a family member ( who has not had a miscarriage, whole and healthy). They exchange this for four times.

This procedure is repeated 2 times at mom-to-be’s mumma’s home and two times at in-laws house. (In some traditions this process is to be done seven times also.)

After that, the brother-in-law gently slaps with Kumkum powder dipped fingers to mom-to-be’s cheeks. And mom-to-be also do the same with brother-in-law. 😀

Washing the toe of goyni’s

First I would like to let you know the meaning of Goyni here. The married or unmarried lady whose toe is supposed to be washed by the expectant mom in honor of Randal Maa.  

Mom-to-be washes the toe with warm water, followed by milk and again with water and applies kanku and rice grains on the toe. Also it is to be done on forehead. Please do check the photos below for more detailed information.

Lunch

Then the ceremony is followed by having lunch together. 🙂

The significance of this ceremony is to shower the blessing to mom-to-be and her unborn with happiness, joy and to celebrate the arrival of a new baby in the family. Everyone rejoices the moments together. 🙂

And at last here are some pics we had during baby shower photo shoot. ❤

Have you been to any Gujarati Baby shower? Or you had your own baby shower this way? What were you experience so far? What are the things you enjoyed the most?

Do write me in a comment box below and share your experience with me. I would love to hear from you.

If you have any question regarding the logic behind the any tradition, feel free to ask me. 🙂

Happy blogging!

22 thoughts on “Baby Shower Ceremony

        1. Tejaswi Vadgama

          Hi, I’m a tamilian who married a gujarati husband.. And now that I’m pregnant I was looking for inspiration and ideas of the rituals done in gujarati tradition.. Thank you for this blog.. Is that your marriage saree that you are wearing?? Is it necessary to wear marriage saree?? And my mother in law mentioned about some green saree that my mom has to give me.. Please do tell me more about that.. And if i should wear the green saree or my marriage saree for my baby shower.

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          1. Hi Tejaswi,
            Thank you for stopping by my blog and kind words for liking the post.

            Also, many many congratulations to you and your family.🎉🎉
            I hope the little one is doing good! 😄

            Regarding the query you asked about tradition and saree, I will do a seperate post so that it can be helpful to you.

            Have a nice day! TC 😊

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  1. Jyoti

    what to do when u enter in ur mammas house?i am taking about the rituals performed after shrimant first time u go to mammas home then what to do?

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    1. Generally, it is said that we can do this either on Sunday or on Tuesday. As these days considered as days of the Goddess. Though in some case people do this ritual on Thursday even. But not other than these days.

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  2. Kunal Parekh

    Hi

    Thanks for your wonderful post. I am Gujarati male but never attended baby shower. I am planning one for my wife next month. As we are living overseas and dont have any relative here.we are skipping Randal Matana lota but planning to do rest at our home such as 1.5 kg Chokha/rice etc. I wonder do we need to call Maharaj/pandit for it?

    Your response would be greatly appreciated.

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    1. Hi @kunal,

      I am really sorry that I could not replay you immediately. For the past few months I am not active on my blog! I think the time has already gone to reply on your query.!

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  3. Nehha

    I am a Marwadi married a Gujarati
    Till now the only tradition I following is not washing my hair
    Which is quite troublesome as the hair is looking too oily and shabby and I can’t really go out anywhere like that there are lot of functions and marriages to attend how can I go out without washing my hair…I really don’t understand how do you connect this no washing hair ritual with the unborn…there is no logical or scientific connection but you just have to follow as it’s a ritual

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    1. Hi Neha,

      Thank you for stopping by my blog!

      Yeah, it is ritual in my side! I used to asked my mom in law about this logic but she also don’t have the correct answer. However, we felt that there could be some logic. I used to surf on internet about the same and fund some some solid answers. You can check out the link below

      https://parenting.firstcry.com/articles/contribution-no-hair-wash-during-pregnancy-not-a-big-problem-to-worry-about/

      Let me know if there is anything which you want me to answer!

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  4. Rashmi Ladwa

    Hi its great that have shared your experience Shrimant. I wanted to know how did you maintained ypur hairs without washing it for 7 months. Your tips would be helpful

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    1. Hi Rashmi,

      I can understand the worry and concern you have!

      My mother in law used to do 2-3 things once a week in oder to manage the hair properly!

      1. You can apply sandelwood power in your scalp. You should apply the way we apply the oil. The reason is – it will prevent the ill-smelling.

      2. Hot towel treatment – After applying the power you can remove it using hot towel. Deep the towel in luck warm water and apply in your hair like you want to remove the powder. So it will help the powder go away along with it will give you fresh feeling like washed hair!

      3. Apply oil twice or thrice a week

      Follow this cycle! Avoid applying oil if you have some plans to go out or need to attend any ceremony.

      I hope this will be helpful.

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